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What happened to classy people?

December 10, 2014

classy people bookIn lieu of the Christmas season and my witnessing of both positive and negative behavior, I felt it proper to share a portion of my book Fashion for the average man. From page 74:

What did Cary Grant, Fred Astaire, Gene Kelly, and Jimmy Stewart all have in common? You guessed it – class. In particular, Cary Grant took class and manners to its rightful place of prominence. After all, opening the door for a woman can be a very sexy act. And, women do notice this. There is a famous story about Cary Grant and Audrey Hepburn working together on the classic movie Charade. They met for the first time in a restaurant in Paris. By accident, Audrey spilled a bottle of red wine all over Cary’s light colored suit. In his gracious way, he treated her as if nothing had happened. The following day, he sent her a gift with a note asking her not to feel uneasy about her embarrassing moment. What a stellar model of gracious and classy behavior.

What happened to classy people? Nowadays, it seems as if our society is filled with flashy, rude and seemingly selfish people. Does no one do the right thing anymore? Where did the spry young men carrying groceries for the elderly go? The other day, I popped into a well-known restaurant grabbing an order to go. Two lights down the road, I realized that they neglected to give me the apple and bread I had ordered. I turned around and went back. While I did not yell or say much, I am pretty sure that I came across as very irritated. Later the next day, I thought to myself, “How sad, I got irritated and worked up over a piece of bread and an apple!” I made it a point to do better in the future. It gets me asking, at what point did we cease noticing the people surrounding us. I think it’s time for us to snap out of me-centered living.

We have all met beautiful people with impeccable fashion who behave so poorly that they seem ugly. On the contrary, we all know people with “humble looks” and adequate fashion that glow because of attitude and selflessness. Simply put, dress well and glow with class.

I implore you to resolve that you will act with a classy attitude and gracious demeanor. Think about others for a change. The next time you talk with a friend; better yet, the next time you eat dinner with your wife or girlfriend, ask her what makes her happy in life. Then, just listen and genuinely ask follow up questions. You will be surprised at how well your conversation will go.

This principle, living a selfless and gracious life, will make you appear better than you could imagine. You can dress well paying attention to every detail, but it matters little if no one wants to look at you.


I also recommend reading Where are the gentlemen?


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4 Comments leave one →
  1. December 10, 2014 12:34 pm

    Good article. It seems so simple for one to fall away from generally classy behavior when surrounded by trends of media and the general public in some realms. Where can one even find a “lady” to be proper with now when vulgar demeanor and lifestyle seem as attractive norms. Or, it could be a falling away from one’s standards of environment that make it feel that way.

    • December 10, 2014 2:18 pm

      You make a good point. It seems as though poor behavior is on the rise for sure. That just means an exhibition of class will stand out all the more.

  2. December 14, 2014 3:16 pm

    The good old golden rule never goes out of style.

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